She stepped onto
the path less travelled
where destiny awaits
and dreams
unravel.
She dug down deep
into her heart
of gold.
For courage
and strength
to meet
the unknown.
Her courage
was shaky
her strength
unstable.
Her emotions
so raw
they were snapping
like freyed
cables.
With the waves
of composure
breaking
at last,
She stepped
into the sunlight
and out
of her past.
Thursday, March 20, 2008
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Silver daydreams
Silver day dreams
float down
from a wintery
sky
glistening
like diamonds
they kiss
trails
down my eyes.
Each one as
rare
as the other
precious crystals
displayed
on the breast
of our mother.
Children
squeal anxious
with delight
their noses wrapped
tightly
they play
right thru
till night.
Young lovers
stroll thru them
as they gingerally fall
eyeing one other
thru the veil
of them all
From infancy
to golden yrs
each man,woman and child
has paused
a moment
to day dream
a while.
float down
from a wintery
sky
glistening
like diamonds
they kiss
trails
down my eyes.
Each one as
rare
as the other
precious crystals
displayed
on the breast
of our mother.
Children
squeal anxious
with delight
their noses wrapped
tightly
they play
right thru
till night.
Young lovers
stroll thru them
as they gingerally fall
eyeing one other
thru the veil
of them all
From infancy
to golden yrs
each man,woman and child
has paused
a moment
to day dream
a while.
the souls reflection
I reached inside
my soul today,
it was cold and dark
and i lost my way
The dust
and cob webs
fazed me not
for I knew my mission
and what
I sought,
I crept thru memories
some painful
and raw
and had to compose
myself
with the things
that I saw
Each memory playing
like a fairy tale dream
some harsh
and some cold
others warm
and serene.
I lay down
in the meadow
the earth as my bed
I try to make sense
of the life
that
i've led
As I lie there
reflecting
on my heart
and my soul
I find myself
ready
to forgive
my past
and embrace
the unknown.
my soul today,
it was cold and dark
and i lost my way
The dust
and cob webs
fazed me not
for I knew my mission
and what
I sought,
I crept thru memories
some painful
and raw
and had to compose
myself
with the things
that I saw
Each memory playing
like a fairy tale dream
some harsh
and some cold
others warm
and serene.
I lay down
in the meadow
the earth as my bed
I try to make sense
of the life
that
i've led
As I lie there
reflecting
on my heart
and my soul
I find myself
ready
to forgive
my past
and embrace
the unknown.
Monday, February 4, 2008
Domestic Abuse, I'm taking action
ok so here is my news
Ok this is EXTREMLY hard for me to post and it is very very draining doing so(emotionally) seeing it all here in type..Matter a fact last week when i 1st stumbled upon this ,i pretty much lost it and needed to come down for a few days and just not look at it and avoid the info overload a while..
I have underlined everything that was done to me or IS BEING DONE to me..I live in ontario and the laws here are very very lax(you will note below that police decide if they feel like pressing charges not the victims
(i learned this 1st hand when in oct(this yr) my ex physically abused me and even cut open my hand,I called police they took a statement and looked at my hand,and then filed the report..I was thrown up against the wall and even screamed for help out my window to my neighbors..They did NOT call for help and all this was done IN FRONT of my kids by the way..The police NEVER charged him and I am stuck with needing to be around him all the time..
Ok getting off subject,sorry this is very very hard for me to do..
I am doing this though,I am MAKING a law..When my baby sister was murdered 14 yrs ago her father went to the parliament and had a law put in place a DNA law stricter then before(it now effects minors(he was 17) before under 18 they could not prosecute you..
My point is that i am changing this,I am going to get a law put in place..
I am getting help and support.
I am getting help from a friend who is very politically connected both in States and here and he is giving tips and direction,BUT ultimately this is up to me and I am going to go after them, take them by storm and GET a law passed..
No more "ma'am he can do what ever he wants it is not against the law"..No more calling the kids worthless wastes of skin and so on..
I will not go into it I think this post is long enough and ya'll can read between the lines of what exactly i went thru..
I am in the process of doing this and at the end of all this women and men and children that are emotionally(or other ways see below) abused will finally be able to get help..
All the underlined items below have been done to me and/or are still happening to me in many cases..
So that is my news I am going to change or sorry MAKE a law,this has to stop and it is going to stop with ME!I am going into politics in the only way i can,and going to make a change for the better.
To those of you who have known about this and helped and consoled me last week while I was flipping out over this you know who you are and thank you,
Nat
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Q. DO I HAVE TO TELL THE POLICE?
A. No one is required to tell the police about violence if the victim is an adult. Whether or not you call the police should be your decision. You should know that:
Ontario has a "mandatory charging policy" which means the police, not you, will decide whether or not to lay a charge against your partner. In some cases, if you have hit him back (or he says you have), the police may even charge you.
Q. AM I BEING ABUSED? IS WHAT HE DOES AGAINST THE LAW? A. There are many different kinds of abuse:
Physical abuse: hitting, punching, kicking, pushing, use of a weapon. This is a criminal offence in Canada, whether or not you are physically injured.
Verbal abuse: yelling, shouting, threats, refusing to talk. Most kinds of verbal abuse are not criminal offences.
Emotional/psychological abuse: often very hard to identify - making you feel worthless, getting the children to insult and demean you, controlling and intimidating you through words and actions. This is not a criminal offence.
Social abuse: cutting you off from family and friends, following you around, calling you constantly. This is not a criminal offence.
Financial abuse: controlling the money, not giving you enough to have any independence, wasting money the family needs on foolish purchases. This is not a criminal offence.
Sexual abuse: forcing you to have sexual relations or specific sexual acts you do not want to participate in, insulting you sexually, refusing to have sex, having sex with others.Only some of these behaviours are criminal offences.
Legal professionals may minimize or deny woman abuse by:
Encouraging women, directly or indirectly, not to disclose violence as a tactic to appear more "cooperative" in court.
Believing a woman is making up or exaggerating abuse to ‘win' in the divorce, or that the abuse isn't ‘bad enough' to be important.
Ignoring the control tactics of abusive fathers and the impact on children of exposure to violence against their mother.
Failing to uphold ‘no contact' orders or to see breaches of orders as an indicator of serious risk to women and children.
Failing to see violence against their mother as good reason to change custody or access orders in the best interests of children.
Giving custody or unsupervised access to fathers who abuse their children.
Using language that minimizes and ignores the importance of violence against women: for example, ‘high conflict divorce,' ‘or ‘warring couples'.
Woman Abuse in Child Custody and Access Decisions.
Women who have children and are victims of abuse may be in particular danger when seeking a separation or divorce.
It is very common for abusers to use family law processes to continue their harassment and control of a former partner. Abusive men are more likely than other men to ask for sole custody or to insist on extensive access to their children.
Women and children are also endangered by the principle of 'maximum contact', a part of the federal Divorce Act directing judges to consider in their decisions the willingness of parents to give maximum access . This may result in women being forced to give the abuser generous access to their children, regardless of the risk of violence.
FATHER'S RIGHTS GROUPS
Fathers' rights groups have been denying that violence against women is a serious problem. In fact, they often claim that women are falsely accusing men of violent behaviour in order to 'keep their kids' or 'get their way' in court. These groups have also claimed that women are as violent, or more violent than men. Fathers' rights groups lobby for "joint custody", but usually they mean joint control, not shared caregiving of children. Their claims have found support in some parts of the legal system.
Legal system professionals who minimize violence may be sympathetic to fathers who want custody, joint custody or unsupervised access even when a father has abused or is abusing the mother of his children. Woman abusers are almost always given unsupervised access to their children in Canada, and are often successful in getting shared parenting (joint custody), and sometimes even sole custody of their children.
WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?
The safety of women and their children must come first in child custody and access decisions. Where woman abuse has occurred, it should override any principle of ‘maximum contact' in the Divorce Act. Definitions of the ‘best interests of children' must include protections from fathers who abuse women.
Lawyers, judges, and mediators must view woman abuse as a human rights violation for both women and their children, which endangers their physical, psychological, and sexual well-being and which deprives them of personal security, freedom, and autonomy. In separation and divorce proceedings, legal professionals and courts must:
Acknowledge the risk of continued woman abuse and the potential for increasing violence, including lethal violence, after separation.
Recognize that the well-being of children is closely tied to that of their primary caregiver, usually their mother, and make custody and access decisions to protect both women and children based on this knowledge.
Any change to the Divorce Act must include a statement about woman abuse and the need to protect women and children from child custody arrangements that further endanger their well-being and security.
A: The issue of emotional abuse is difficult. Criminal law does not prohibit emotional abuse, except in certain circumstances. For example, threatening to kill or cause harm to you IS against the law, whether or not the threat was realistic or was carried out.
Sadly, "simple" verbal abuse is not something the police can lay a charge for.
Ok this is EXTREMLY hard for me to post and it is very very draining doing so(emotionally) seeing it all here in type..Matter a fact last week when i 1st stumbled upon this ,i pretty much lost it and needed to come down for a few days and just not look at it and avoid the info overload a while..
I have underlined everything that was done to me or IS BEING DONE to me..I live in ontario and the laws here are very very lax(you will note below that police decide if they feel like pressing charges not the victims
(i learned this 1st hand when in oct(this yr) my ex physically abused me and even cut open my hand,I called police they took a statement and looked at my hand,and then filed the report..I was thrown up against the wall and even screamed for help out my window to my neighbors..They did NOT call for help and all this was done IN FRONT of my kids by the way..The police NEVER charged him and I am stuck with needing to be around him all the time..
Ok getting off subject,sorry this is very very hard for me to do..
I am doing this though,I am MAKING a law..When my baby sister was murdered 14 yrs ago her father went to the parliament and had a law put in place a DNA law stricter then before(it now effects minors(he was 17) before under 18 they could not prosecute you..
My point is that i am changing this,I am going to get a law put in place..
I am getting help and support.
I am getting help from a friend who is very politically connected both in States and here and he is giving tips and direction,BUT ultimately this is up to me and I am going to go after them, take them by storm and GET a law passed..
No more "ma'am he can do what ever he wants it is not against the law"..No more calling the kids worthless wastes of skin and so on..
I will not go into it I think this post is long enough and ya'll can read between the lines of what exactly i went thru..
I am in the process of doing this and at the end of all this women and men and children that are emotionally(or other ways see below) abused will finally be able to get help..
All the underlined items below have been done to me and/or are still happening to me in many cases..
So that is my news I am going to change or sorry MAKE a law,this has to stop and it is going to stop with ME!I am going into politics in the only way i can,and going to make a change for the better.
To those of you who have known about this and helped and consoled me last week while I was flipping out over this you know who you are and thank you,
Nat
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Q. DO I HAVE TO TELL THE POLICE?
A. No one is required to tell the police about violence if the victim is an adult. Whether or not you call the police should be your decision. You should know that:
Ontario has a "mandatory charging policy" which means the police, not you, will decide whether or not to lay a charge against your partner. In some cases, if you have hit him back (or he says you have), the police may even charge you.
Q. AM I BEING ABUSED? IS WHAT HE DOES AGAINST THE LAW? A. There are many different kinds of abuse:
Physical abuse: hitting, punching, kicking, pushing, use of a weapon. This is a criminal offence in Canada, whether or not you are physically injured.
Verbal abuse: yelling, shouting, threats, refusing to talk. Most kinds of verbal abuse are not criminal offences.
Emotional/psychological abuse: often very hard to identify - making you feel worthless, getting the children to insult and demean you, controlling and intimidating you through words and actions. This is not a criminal offence.
Social abuse: cutting you off from family and friends, following you around, calling you constantly. This is not a criminal offence.
Financial abuse: controlling the money, not giving you enough to have any independence, wasting money the family needs on foolish purchases. This is not a criminal offence.
Sexual abuse: forcing you to have sexual relations or specific sexual acts you do not want to participate in, insulting you sexually, refusing to have sex, having sex with others.Only some of these behaviours are criminal offences.
Legal professionals may minimize or deny woman abuse by:
Encouraging women, directly or indirectly, not to disclose violence as a tactic to appear more "cooperative" in court.
Believing a woman is making up or exaggerating abuse to ‘win' in the divorce, or that the abuse isn't ‘bad enough' to be important.
Ignoring the control tactics of abusive fathers and the impact on children of exposure to violence against their mother.
Failing to uphold ‘no contact' orders or to see breaches of orders as an indicator of serious risk to women and children.
Failing to see violence against their mother as good reason to change custody or access orders in the best interests of children.
Giving custody or unsupervised access to fathers who abuse their children.
Using language that minimizes and ignores the importance of violence against women: for example, ‘high conflict divorce,' ‘or ‘warring couples'.
Woman Abuse in Child Custody and Access Decisions.
Women who have children and are victims of abuse may be in particular danger when seeking a separation or divorce.
It is very common for abusers to use family law processes to continue their harassment and control of a former partner. Abusive men are more likely than other men to ask for sole custody or to insist on extensive access to their children.
Women and children are also endangered by the principle of 'maximum contact', a part of the federal Divorce Act directing judges to consider in their decisions the willingness of parents to give maximum access . This may result in women being forced to give the abuser generous access to their children, regardless of the risk of violence.
FATHER'S RIGHTS GROUPS
Fathers' rights groups have been denying that violence against women is a serious problem. In fact, they often claim that women are falsely accusing men of violent behaviour in order to 'keep their kids' or 'get their way' in court. These groups have also claimed that women are as violent, or more violent than men. Fathers' rights groups lobby for "joint custody", but usually they mean joint control, not shared caregiving of children. Their claims have found support in some parts of the legal system.
Legal system professionals who minimize violence may be sympathetic to fathers who want custody, joint custody or unsupervised access even when a father has abused or is abusing the mother of his children. Woman abusers are almost always given unsupervised access to their children in Canada, and are often successful in getting shared parenting (joint custody), and sometimes even sole custody of their children.
WHAT DO WOMEN NEED?
The safety of women and their children must come first in child custody and access decisions. Where woman abuse has occurred, it should override any principle of ‘maximum contact' in the Divorce Act. Definitions of the ‘best interests of children' must include protections from fathers who abuse women.
Lawyers, judges, and mediators must view woman abuse as a human rights violation for both women and their children, which endangers their physical, psychological, and sexual well-being and which deprives them of personal security, freedom, and autonomy. In separation and divorce proceedings, legal professionals and courts must:
Acknowledge the risk of continued woman abuse and the potential for increasing violence, including lethal violence, after separation.
Recognize that the well-being of children is closely tied to that of their primary caregiver, usually their mother, and make custody and access decisions to protect both women and children based on this knowledge.
Any change to the Divorce Act must include a statement about woman abuse and the need to protect women and children from child custody arrangements that further endanger their well-being and security.
A: The issue of emotional abuse is difficult. Criminal law does not prohibit emotional abuse, except in certain circumstances. For example, threatening to kill or cause harm to you IS against the law, whether or not the threat was realistic or was carried out.
Sadly, "simple" verbal abuse is not something the police can lay a charge for.
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
On Destiny's Wings
When the wind
slices through
your transparent
soul
raging like a slow
and venomous
storm.
Close your eyes
embrace
the rage
for only then
can we escape
our cage.
We're trapped
desolate
scared and alone
justice betrayed us
and love left us
scorned.
Though fate
is merciless
and love
is blind
I still believe
that the future's
signed.
For the gift
of chance
graces destiny's
hand
she soars
like an angel
lifting those
who are too weak
to stand.
slices through
your transparent
soul
raging like a slow
and venomous
storm.
Close your eyes
embrace
the rage
for only then
can we escape
our cage.
We're trapped
desolate
scared and alone
justice betrayed us
and love left us
scorned.
Though fate
is merciless
and love
is blind
I still believe
that the future's
signed.
For the gift
of chance
graces destiny's
hand
she soars
like an angel
lifting those
who are too weak
to stand.
hope will find me
I wanted to laugh
today
the wind was fierce
and the sky
was grey
I wanted to laugh
today.
I wanted to cry
today
i saw a babe
kiss his ma
with an angels face
and infectious smile
I wanted to cry
today
I wanted to die
today
I saw love
and i pushed
it away
I saw death
and i kissed him
G'day!
I wanted to die
today.
But then hope
came along
and kissed
my jaded eyes
suddenly
the sky was
blue
death was waiving
adieu
the babe
made me smile
and love?
Well i guess
it was not such a big push
after all.
today
the wind was fierce
and the sky
was grey
I wanted to laugh
today.
I wanted to cry
today
i saw a babe
kiss his ma
with an angels face
and infectious smile
I wanted to cry
today
I wanted to die
today
I saw love
and i pushed
it away
I saw death
and i kissed him
G'day!
I wanted to die
today.
But then hope
came along
and kissed
my jaded eyes
suddenly
the sky was
blue
death was waiving
adieu
the babe
made me smile
and love?
Well i guess
it was not such a big push
after all.
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
the beltane dance
The sacred breath
of the ancient ones,
envelopes their bodies,
like a soothing song.
Twin shadows
embrace,
in the full moon
light.
As a trembling sigh
escapes her lips,
he steals her innocence,
In the sacred rite.
A maid no longer
but a mother soon
The stars bow softly,
at the magestic moon.
Glistening her skin
with fragrant oils,
the heavens smile warmly ,
on the lovers souls.
His bride is radiant,
his love overwhelms him
as he passes a hand
over her womb,
where new life
begins.
of the ancient ones,
envelopes their bodies,
like a soothing song.
Twin shadows
embrace,
in the full moon
light.
As a trembling sigh
escapes her lips,
he steals her innocence,
In the sacred rite.
A maid no longer
but a mother soon
The stars bow softly,
at the magestic moon.
Glistening her skin
with fragrant oils,
the heavens smile warmly ,
on the lovers souls.
His bride is radiant,
his love overwhelms him
as he passes a hand
over her womb,
where new life
begins.
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